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Question: Single looking

Dear Lounge Advice, Used to have a very fun lifestyle relationship with my wife of 30 years. Went from that to absolutely nothing. Sex twice in the last 10 months. I am completely demoralized and my confidence is shot WTF. my loyalty is wearing then. She can't talk about anything, she works a lot so I can't imagine an affair, I guess anything is possible, but there is never enough time.

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

I think you just answered your own question.

If you two are not taking the time to communicate with each other because there is "never enough time" and try to express where you are both at individually and with each other…nothing is ever going to change or improve.

If you don't open the communication lines and figure out where you both stand you will both just end up running in circles around each other avoiding dealing with your issues.

I always suggest that being bold, direct and brutally honest with your partner or wife is the best way to handle personal issues.

Lay out all of the cards on the table first…see how she responds.

If that fails you can always seek counseling for both of you to attend or even just for yourself if you feel it is needed to continue your marriage and stay stable and happy.






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Question: Fun couple looking to make new friends

Looking to book a sex vacation in Korea or Japan. Cant seem to find any sites that offer that. Anyone have any ideas?

Thanks

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

I'm not sure what you mean by "sex vacation"….so I'll assume you are looking for "swinger/lifestyle friendly" options.

Try contacting LLTRAVEL on the site.
They are the official travel agents for LL and have contacts internationally.

They may be able to recommend or help you book a trip to some "lifestyle friendly" locations and destinations for you in the areas you are traveling to.




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Question:        *POB*= Pics of Both

Dear Lounge Advice,
Are there foods and or supplements that can increase a mans semen load size?

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

Here are some tips to ponder…but there is no "Miracle Pill" to create larger ejaculation volume.


- Drink plenty of fluids( NO SODA) and keep the heat away. More

- Avoid wearing tight underwear or sitting with your legs crossed.

-Abstain from orgasm for 1 to 2 days.

- Make changes to your diet and consider using supplements.
Red beans
Wild blueberries, cranberries, and blackberries
Coconut water
Prunes
Apples (Red Delicious, Granny Smith, Gala)
Artichokes<12>

Try taking certain amino acids.
Amino acids are the building blocks of proteins. These organic compounds, taken regularly, are reputed to boost levels of silly string.<9> Scientists believe that sperm benefit from amino acids because certain amino acids are found in large quantities in the heads of sperm. Look out for the following amino acids to boost your ejaculate:
L-Arginine
L-Lysine
L-Carnitine

- Make healthy lifestyle choices, such as exercising more and not smoking.

All you can do is try some or all of these suggestions as a part of your daily life balance.
Part-time or occasional use will most certainly not make any difference.



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Question: Hedonist Couple Seek Bi- & Gay Women for Wife

Dear Lounge Advice,
My wife is truly bisexual, and met another young woman who is also, so much so that they first time they played, it lasted over four hours and they each came so many times that before ending the evening, they had already set another play date for less than a week later. The problem is, the other woman has a distinct body odor that breaks my wife's focus, so much that she finds it a challenge to go down on, or even suck the nipples of the other woman. She very much wants to continue to play with her friend, but the odor is presenting a challenge to doing so. We would welcome any advice you can provide to remedy this situation. Just FYI, we already addressed a similar issue with this woman, she used aloe vera based lotion everywhere, including her nipples and genitals, and we as tactfully as possible asked her not to, and she indicated that she would refrain from using it on those areas, so we're a little nervous about addressing this issue now.
Any suggestions would be very much appreciated, as my wife really loves this woman, and she loves my wife, so I am desperate to figure out how to solve this new concern.
Thanks,


Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

Well….BO/Body Odor issues are a tricky subject.

You are either going to have to "deal" with it or call it a "deal breaker"…IMHO.

If you are uncomfortable talking to this person again about this issue and it is not going to be a long term fling I would call it a "deal breaker" and call it quits.

Since you already voiced concerns over the "Aloe Vera" lotion this person uses then it sounds like you don't have any issues voicing your opinions.

Hell you could even "fib" a bit and claim it is an allergy hyper sensitivity issue.

I would suggest that you be gently honest with this person and let them know the situation.
Maybe suggest "bathing" and a "no perfumes/lotion" policy prior to play dates/playtime….or make that a part of the playtime prep/foreplay….tell her it really turns your wife on…something along those lines.

If that does not solve the issue and it is a "natural" body odor this person simply emits even after bathing…there is not much you are going to be able to do about that other than try to mask it with perfumes or body sprays that are tolerable to your wife….and make WONDERFUL GIFTS !! ;) ;)


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Question: Ny traveling 

Dear Lounge Advice,
So this one is tough to admit and the mrs knows and is working with me too. I am also going to sound pretty pathetic, but I am going to put it out there anyway. I have always been a competitive guy in sports, life etc. I/we have been in the lifestyle a while and I have move past pretty much all insecurities and love how we connect and the openness both mental and sexually we have. That said, there is one issue that still plagues me/us to this day. The issue is Penis size. I have an average penis in my mind when it comes to the lifestyle, but many single males who succeed in the lifestyle are very large. On the one hand I enjoy seeing my wife with someone who is large, but on the other hand I have the craziest thoughts. Thoughts like, is he stretching her out that wont go back? Is he hitting spots I will never be able to hit having something with her I dont if even physical and so on. Yes I know I he will never make her feel like I do cause she loves me but that answer doesnt seem to work for me. Its the pride that I cant get past. The thought of him giving her "physical" feelings I never will be able too.

PS. believe it or not we really are secure in the lifestyle and have had our fair share of very large men. I am ok somethings but drive her nuts at others when I fall back into this line of thinking and start asking questions.

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

All people have insecurities…sometimes big or sometimes small…no pun intended:-)

It is how you choose to deal with them that matters more than anything else.

Of course guys with larger penis size are going to produce different sensations and go places that an "average" size cock would not normally reach or produce.

You simply have to accept that as a fact beyond your control…but it does not mean that you are lacking anything.

As long as she is not complaining or expressing that she is dissatisfied with you I would suggest that you not worry about this and enjoy watching her experience different pleasures that only certain individuals or toys can provide.

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Question: Fun, playful couple seeks female for threesome

Dear Lounge Advice,
What's the best way to find a more upscale club in our area? We are outside of Chicago, and have not had much luck. Any advice on finding a female for a threesome?

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

If you are looking for Clubs that are "lifestyle/Swing" friendly then Check out our CLUBS option on the top menu bar of the site.

Another option is to start a topic in our Forum in the Travel & Parties area.
I'm sure the LL locals in the Chi Town area will chime in with some great suggestions for current"upscale"clubs that you should try to make it to.

Finding a female for a threesome.
Use the Search option on the top menu bar and select Single Female as the status and any other criteria you are looking for.
You might also want to post a Booty call for what you are looking for as well :-)

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Question: sFun no strings no attachments

What swing club or clubs in Las Vegas are couples only?

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

Try posting your question in our Travel & Parties area of our Forum.

We have a lot of members who reside in and or travel in Las Vegas.

I'm sure they will chime in with where the current "Hot Spots" are that you should hit and which Clubs are "couples only".



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Question:

Dear Lounge Advice,

My boyfriend met a vanilla women who was very attracted to him.
They sent texts back and forth with her sending him naked pictures of herself, because he asked her too.
I found out and saw the texts and pictures.
The texts were about setting up a place to meet me and act like it was a random meeting, so we could have a threesome.
I was very hurt that he went behind my back. Now I don't know if I can trust him.


Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

If you two had discussed a scenario like this as part of fulfilling a fantasy for one of you or each other we would not see any problems with this.

If nothing like this has EVER been discussed at all between you two then your "red flags" are probably valid.

Might as well discuss the matter with him asap and get it all out in the open.
That is the only way you are going to be able to figure out if the "trust" and relationship you have is salvageable or not.


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Question: Fun Happy Couple in the frozen tundra

Dear Lounge Advice,

Can you tell me if there is an actual Glory Hole any where near the Twin Cities area?

Thanks

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

Not that we are aware of.

We have seen people throw private events or parties in the past where they have basically created their own "Glory Hole"…some have been pretty creative.

Your best bet is to try asking in the
Travel & Parities or Member's Helping other Member's area of the Forum.

Hopefully some locals in that area will chime in if they know of one.

Good luck :-)


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Question: ... very bad.

Dear Lounge Advice,

Hi!

We are going on vacation to Barbados and would love any suggestions about meeting single men for cuckold threesomes..

BBC preferred but not a deal breaker

Craigslist is useless in the carribean..

Any thoughts? Any resources, swinger sites, clubs, well-known "Hunting grounds"?

Really appreciate any advice you can give!

warmly
jb and devon

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

Your best best it to create a post in our Travel & Parties or Member's Helping other Members" area of our Forum.

If you can provide the general area you will be staying in during your trip hopefully some of our members who have frequented or live in that area will chime in with some great tips for finding "lifestyle" friendly Clubs you may want to look into
during your getaway there :-)


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