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Question: How would I find these parties?

Dear Lounge Advice,
I'm new-I would love to go to parties to ease in and talk to people face to face and find chemistry. How would I find these parties and be accepted. I'm a single female not looking for strings. But open to meet and be available and then..
thanks.

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

There is an EVENTS area on our home page that lists all Events occurring both Nationally( by State) and Internationally.
You can also "customize" the events area to make it easier to locate and keep track of events near your area.

You can also check out the CLUBS link on the top main tool bar or the FORUM/ Travel & Parties topic.





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Question: How do you get a metal cock ring on?

Dear Lounge Advice,
How do you get a metal cock ring on?

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

Always ask for and read the general safety directions which should accompany any legitimate sex toys you purchase.

That being said metal cock rings should be applied prior to the erection.
Lube can be used to make the process easier if needed.



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Question: We are new to this site and the lifestyle.

Dear Lounge Advice,

We are new to this site and the lifestyle. What is your best advice for finding what we want, a bi-sexual or curious female that wants to play with a couple?

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

Hello,

Make sure to include in your profile's descriptive areas, Type of playmates we are interested in areas and Additional Questions…. exactly what you are looking for.

Read the profiles….they usually state if what they are looking for for play.

- Use the SEARCH feature(on the top main tool bar) to set up search parameters for what you are looking for and browse member profiles in your area. You can specifically search for Female Sexual Preference….enter Bi-sexual

-Contact via mail or Wish List the members you find that you are interested in meeting with.
SAY HELLO :-)

-Look at the WHO'S ONLINE area ( Top menu bar)
-Post a Booty Call ( See top main menu)

-Try our CHAT/IM features to contact and meet other members.

GET TO AN EVENT NEAR YOU….this is by far the best way to meet someone in your area.

There are numerous tools and features for your to find other members


Good luck in your search :-)


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Question: How do we expand and see more near us ?

Dear Lounge Advice,Our search for single females and couples seems very limited. How do we expand and see more near us ?


Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

Our Search feature allows you to customize your search parameters to only look for couples or single females and by your zip code.

In the Search Feature make sure the Gender/Status: is set to Couple or single female

Enter your current zip in the From Zipcode:area

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Question: I was thinking to try to meet a girl on the site to go to parties with, any advice?

Dear Lounge Advice,
I am a really fun sexual guy trying to break into the lifestyle as a single guy. I have been to a few parties and even had a threesome with her best friend with a previous relationship. I was thinking to try to meet a girl on the site to go to parties with, any advice?

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

Hi,

Try using our SEARCH feature or "Welcome Wagon" link(located on our home page) to locate other single females in your area and shoot them an email or wish list them to introduce yourself and your interests:-)




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Question: What say you?

Dear Lounge Advice,

After years of being blocked, a couple finally told us why they blocked us. The explanation was, well, something they said I did about disinviting them from a party about 9 years ago.

I honestly don't remember treating them or anyone in the manner they said that I did. I feel really bad about any misunderstandings with anyone, and if I truly did something wrong, would like to apologize.

But since we're blocked, and the email I received was so out of bounds in describing something I don't recall I can't apologize or set things right.

It's not like we're ever going to meet these people, but I do not like the thought that someone would consider me rude and snobby, and hurtful.

What say you?

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

I would not spend too much time worrying about a minor misunderstanding that occurred 9 years ago.
Life is too short for things like that.

If they still have your account blocked to prevent you from responding or having a conversation with them that tells me they are just "slinging arrows" and not really interested mending differences....pretty petty move on their part.

I would suggest you close that chapter...not worry or doubt yourself for a moment....and move on.

It is their issue to deal with at this point.





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Question: How do I use this website to find someone?

Dear Lounge Advice,
Very new to this and this website...my wife and I are interested in meeting some single men to play with her as I observe...we've used sites like Craigslist and Backpage but want something more reliable and safe...how do I use this website to find someone?

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

Hello & Welcome :-)

-Add photos to your profile ASAP(refreshing your lead photo monthly....it will get you noticed quicker)
Profiles with no photos or really BAD photos rarely get any interest or response.

-Get your account certified REAL !
This is almost a MUST DO on the LIfestylelounge these days
( See Special Features tab on our home page for information on how to get your account certified real)

- Use the SEARCH feature(on the top main tool bar) to set up search parameters for what you are looking for and browse member profiles in your area

-Contact via mail or Wish List the members you find that you are interested in meeting with.
SAY HELLO :-)

-Look at the WHO'S ONLINE area ( Top menu bar)
-Post a Booty Call ( See top main menu)

-Try our CHAT/IM features to contact and meet other members.

There are numerous tools and features for your to find other members


Good luck in your search :-)





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Question: My fantasy is simply being with a man that wants to be with 'only me' and loves me most of the time. I really don't think he does any more.

Dear Lounge Advice,
My significant other and I have been enjoying the lifestyle for about 5 years now. We've had many great experiences and your site has been one of the best sources for the fun connections we've had. Thank you for providing such a wonderful site with some of the best information available anywhere.
I have a concern and need your advice. I feel that we are not connecting as we should be in our relationship. I am concerned that he relies way too much on this and a few other sites like this one, including porn, to chat, get off, and flirt with others. He gets off on it way to much for my liking.
In my opinion, I wish he were more interested in working on our relationship and try harder to connect with me instead of focusing on setting up our next 'date'. I enjoy some fun about once every six months or so. He seems to be consumed with setting up these dates on a daily basis. I get tired of talking about it all the time and it's beginning to be a turn off for me.

He works very hard for many hours a day and we do not have 'one on one' dates much anymore. When we do, it's not really that great because we don't seem to be getting along much any more. I feel terribly neglected, and un loved. I truly feel that he is only with me because we have so much fun in the lifestyle. However, I rarely ever feel close to him. He is very distant, says mean things to me, and really never seems at all interested in 'just me' any more. All our socializing is either 'business' social or 'lifestyle' social. He is 'obsessive compulsive' about everything except me these days and I need advice on how to handle this situation.
During our one on one sex together, he is constantly talking about our experiences in the lifestyle, or future fantasies. I've mentioned that I'd like him to keep those thoughts to himself while I'm enjoying my own fantasy in my head so I can come to orgasm. My fantasy is simply being with a man that wants to be with 'only me' and loves me most of the time. I really don't think he does any more.
I decided to ask you for advice when he brought up the subject of purchasing the LIFETIME subscription to your site just when I'm considering dropping out. I think that would possibly be the end of our relationship.
Thank you for your advice, Island Girl

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

I would highly recommend that you suggest that you both "take a break" from the lifestyle activities until you get this situation worked out between the two of you.


Being active in the lifestyle should ONLY be to "enhance" or "spice up" your relationship with your partner ....it should NOT be the sole focus of your entire relationship with each other.
If the "lifestyle scene" and play time is driving an emotional wedge between the two of you and creating negative feelings within you...it is time to bow out for while and work on each other

If you are starting to harbor ill feelings about the lifestyle and getting together with other people to play....that is not good and will only get worse if you play along with it simply to keep him happy.


The best advice I can give you is to not be afraid to be up front and honest about your feelings you are expressing to me to your partner....and make sure he is listening to what you are saying.

If he values you and your relationship with him more than anything else this should be a "no brainer" for him to work out a break from the Lifestyle with you....and realize he need to focus on you and only you for a while...or maybe forever.

If you say nothing...nothing will change and things will only get worse for you and your situation.

I love this advice someone gave me once and I will share it with you.

"There are 3 C's in life:
CHOICES,CHANCES and CHANGES.
You must make a CHOICE to take a CHANCE or your life will never CHANGE.

Follow your heart, be brave and say & do what is best for you.
If he truly loves you and cares about you...he will always have your back :-)


On a side note-
LL does not offer lifetime memberships as a billing option.







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Question: How can I help her to feel more comfortable about returning to the lifestyle?

Dear Lounge Advice,

My wife and I were in the lifestyle several years ago which we both enjoyed but took a break to have our family. Now that we have achieved that goal, I want us to return to the lifestyle, but she is very hesitant. I understand that after having children, she may have concerns about her body and she is working to reach her personal goals. She is still gorgeous to me and I tell her every chance I get. I have always been very interested in the lifestyle even before we met. How can I help her to feel more comfortable about returning to the lifestyle?



Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

Talk to each other, talk to each other and talk to each other.

If you two are open and honest with each other about everything I would suggest you find a good time to share your interest in rejoining the Lifestyle scene with her directly.
You need to discover what specific issues or reservations she has if any.

Maybe you two can agree to attend some low key events in your area (with out any real plans to hook up with anyone) and just dip your feet back in the pool...so to speak.
Perhaps dressing up sexxxy and getting out to meet some other lifestylers in your area will peak her interest or help her feel more comfortable about herself as flattery by other peeps does WONDERS to boost ones ego :-)

One thing is for sure....sitting around at home wondering and talking about it will probably never change things.
Sometime you have to just DIVE IN ! :-)




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Question: Perhaps I just want to know your opinion and if you agree that their behavior was rude?

Dear Lounge Advice,

We recently communicated with a couple that was traveling to our city. The email exchanges and then txt messages all went smoot and very efficiently. This couple suggested to meet on Friday at 11pm in their hotel bar and we agreed.
They confirmed several times and then txt us at 10pm that they are running late & have to meet at 11:45pm but if that time won't work for us we could reschedule.
My husband and I just had a shot of espresso and felt ready to go, so agreed to that time.
I txt them when we were on our way, arriving on time.
The bar they wanted us to meet at on the rooftop was closed early due to a private event earlier and the lobby bar was also about to shut down, we managed to order 2 drinks and sat down. When they didn't reply or showed up I txt them, little later they txt that they are in the shower now ready to meet in 10min.
Around 12:15 am my husband spotted another local Lifestyle coming out of the elevator leaving the hotel.
Then we got a txt again that they will b e down in 10min....
We both felt played and treated with disrespect, so we left.
15min later they txt us where we were and I txt them back that we spotted their other date and decided that it was getting too late for us to stick around.
No response or appologies from them but we felt good about having left.
Is it too much to expect more honesty in the lifestyle?
We would have preferred to know that they had an earlier date and if we'd feel ok about playing it by ear that night. We live only 8min walking distance from where they stayed so it would have been no problem for us. Perhaps I just want to know your opinion and if you agree that their behavior was rude?
It feels so needless & very disappointing.

Thanks,

S&J

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

It was VERY RUDE and certainly sounds like they had made too many commitments for themselves to keep on that one night.

This happens a lot at takeover events as well.

It would have been better if they has told you they had to decline for that evening earlier on and not left you hanging.
The fact that they pushed your pre-arranged meeting time back almost 2 hours kind of indicates that they were involved with someone else as well.

You did the right thing by leaving.
Any apology from them would have been nice...but at this point I would not expect one if you have not received it yet.

My suggestion would be to call it a bad experience...they don't all work out well...and not let it upset you going forward in the future.
I would certainly put them way down on your
"TO DO" list....if not take them off of it completely.

Most often if someone pushes back a meet time on a "date" ( for any reason other than an emergency/vehicle/transportation issues...then there is another agenda in play....and you are obviously not a high priority....ie....cancel the date yourselves and party on with someone else or each other before it gets too late.
Make it the other parties/couples loss....not yours :-)



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